Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Upon Meeting Someone New
What if, when we met people, instead of asking, "where do you live?" "where are you from" "what do you do (for a living)?" we asked, "what makes you laugh so hard that your knees buckle, you fall to the floor, and tears pour out of your eyes?" "Who do you love very much?" "What makes your heart sink heavily and why?" What if instead of shaking hands, we simply look into each others' eyes with a gentle nod. Do you feel the difference between hands meeting and eyes meeting? There is a difference. What if instead of, "what is your name?" we said, "who are you?" Maybe we should try. Awaiting your reply to... shiframash@gmail.com
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sounds good... sounds real... just what we need to move the world from outer focus to inner focus... it's where we're headed... it's where we need to g(r)o(w).
ReplyDeleteSomething in they mystery of comforting people into being able to share their essences authentically: direct engagement can exhaust more than comfort or engage. How can we ask people Who They Are? Much of the answer might be more in how we ask whatever we ask, with how much heart and attention?
ReplyDelete"where do you live?" "where are you from" "what do you do (for a living)? are, generally just tools for inviting a sense of what a person values and is dealing with, the stuff so basic and unthreatening to share that more interaction can happen sweetly, more sense of commonality established. because, in first interactions, many people are concerned with what is safe to express, or helpful, and in the petty irrelevant, the other things about ourselves can start to comfortable and securely ease out~~~